You have been so instrumental along this journey back home to myself. Your textures, colors, shapes and flavours are utterly divine and I can not imagine not having found you - touched you, smelt you and devoured you!
Food, you have brought me life, radiance, and better digestion. This topic is such an expansive and important one for me, that I don’t know where to even begin. You have been there through the most transformation in my life, you have brought me closer to friends and family, made me feel full when I felt empty. I truly can’t thank you enough for your generosity. I am eternally grateful.
I have been thinking a lot about the role that alcohol plays in my life.
Are you someone who only feels at ease among a group of people once you’ve had a drink? Do you drink merely to ‘fit in’ in social settings with friends? Would they judge you if you didn’t order that glass of wine? Or are you OK saying “no thanks”.
What about going on that first date with someone new? Sober Dating - what a concept. Something I have been exploring. I had no idea how refreshing this would be. I had no idea it was exactly what I wanted and needed.
As I sit here this month I can’t help but to reflect on all of life’s intersections along my journey so far.
Leading into my twenties was like a haze of reckless abandon, having no freaking clue how to navigate life and what lay ahead.
Hopping over to my mid-twenties I found love, I discovered self worth, gratitude and a deeper reason for being alive through healthy relationships. I experienced loss and depth. It was not easy and there were a lot of lessons but the best one of all was cultivating a community.
It was an immense time of shedding and self recognition.
Why do we meditate? There seems to be a large uprising in meditation these days which is kind of a wonderful thing. There are so many types of meditation, how do you know where to start? What is your why for doing this?
We meditate because it reduces stress, it brings us out of our heads and into our bodies and allows us to connect with our life force - the breath. As I sat in on a two hour zen meditation class I was reminded that it is a brave thing to sit with ourselves. It takes courage and bravery to look deep within at what we so skillfully ignore about ourselves on a daily basis.
Are you someone who’s always looking outside of yourself to find the answers?
It’s kind of a funny thing how we look outside of ourselves, even to other people to find answers to our questions. As if someone else can provide the clarity we so deeply desire at times. I’m all for working with healers (that you trust), to help bring clarity to light that you may not be able to yet see for yourself, truths that re-direct where you are meant to go.
However, to find the answers you desire, the clarity you so desperately seek and resolutions to your problems is simple. You need to get quiet
What is empathy and how can we allow our self to operate from this space?
Now, it is not possible to know entirely how another person experiences reality. I do know that we are able, if even only for a moment, to put ourselves in the shoes of another. We can open ourselves up to the possibility of what it is like to live from their perspective and frame of reality. For example, if someone close to you or someone that you love is experiencing a hard time, you are able to feel their hurt and really come from a place of compassion and understanding - this is empathy.
We all know the feeling, that feeling when your significant other does something to make us feel less worthy, upset or rejected. That time you flew off the handle, (most likely at nothing), or when you created a story in your mind about something happening that wasn’t. Or maybe something did happen. Maybe you were betrayed and ever since that moment you felt like you may never trust again. I think we’ve all been there. I was thinking about jealously recently, what does jealousy actually equal? What is it and why do we feel it sometimes? Is it rational?
One of the biggest inspirations behind sharing my experiences and being transparent is to shine light on my shadows. You know those bits you keep buried deep down for no one to see, not even you? Yeah those bits. I think what we do not own, owns us and it is often what we keep hidden from the world that pains us. It is this pain, these shadows of our existence that are actually the key to freeing our self from the confines of our mind and subconscious.
Incorporating a gratitude practice into your day might sound kind of tedious or repetitive but I promise you that it has the ability to transform your life. To take time out of your busy day to give gratitude for what you have and for your incredible self, (because, yes you are incredible) will uplift you and shift your perspectives.
How can you really integrate this practice into your life?
I feel like introverts are often misunderstood, people assume that if you are an introvert that you are anti-social, always spend time alone and simply not interested in being around people. This could not be further from the truth and I’ll tell you why.
About five years ago yoga found me. I have practiced on and off since - yoga is a practice and tool that continues to change my life and perspectives. When I made yoga a regular part of my life, I found myself shocked and heartbroken that this wasn’t something we all grew up with, that it wasn’t a class in school but so grateful to have found it no matter what age.
I believe that we decide to incarnate exactly where we do. With the parents that we have. We made a decision to be birthed by our mothers, or to be adopted by our chosen mother and fathers. We are here to learn from them just as they are here to learn from us. There is nothing we will experience in our lifetime that we can not handle and was not meant for us. We chose this. We chose them.
I have only met a select few that are truly great listeners. People that are present and content to hear what the other has to say. Do you find yourself interrupting people before they even finish speaking? That you just have to get the words out of your mind that very moment? When you speak with someone are you already voicing your opinion before they’ve completed their story or sentence? If you answered yes to these questions, than you are not a great listener.
Don’t worry, most of us are not. It takes practice. It takes presence. It takes self awareness.
We are all here to learn - to play. We are not here to suffer, we suffer because we become our thoughts rather than sit witness to our thoughts. Read that again - we suffer because we become our thoughts rather than sit witness to our thoughts.
We are learning how to help ourselves. We are being given tools to allow us to sit witness, if we are are willing to see. Take a moment and slow down in a life that is in a constant rush. The fate of humanity is dependent upon us. Will we overcome these lessons with love or fear? This is the true question.
Healing through our womb space - what a concept right?
I believe our womb is a home for our traumas to reside. I know this because I have been instinctively healing through my womb for quite some time now. As women this space is where we grow life and where we can experience profound healing.
It is when we meditate that we are able to go deep into the depths of our subconscious. Depths we may otherwise never know exist within us.
Everything we witness each day is simply a movie playing in our mind. Our eyes capturing it like our camera captures moments in time - frame by frame. Constantly processing film.
When we experience pain in our bodies, health struggles and illness I believe this is our body holding onto moments, experiences, and trauma. Holding on to it rather than witnessing, feeling and RELEASING.
When we hold on we create blocks in the body like knots in your muscles. Energetically clogging us up and creating stagnancy in the physical body and mind. These are all ways that your body is telling us something in our life is not as it should be - something is out of balance and it is altering us, though we tend to ignore these divine nudges.
Are you closed off from the idea of talking to people that you don’t know? I find we often avoid mere eye contact as we go about our day, passing by those around us without an ounce of recognition. I know that I have been guilty of this.
A man sat beside me - a fellow kindred spirit all the way from Bulgaria. Not planning on speaking to anyone along my journey, I cracked open one of my favorite books ever - Letting Go by David Hawkins. The moment I pulled the book out he strikes up a conversation with me. My initial response to his engagement was to pull away and retreat, get lost deep within the pages of my book. Why is it that we do that?